Quote of the Day
From 2016 through 2022, more than 3,000 undergraduate and graduate students at a university in Florida participated in my survey ‘Why do students have sex?’. Overall, students submitted more than 12,000 comments, explanations, or narratives of what happened, as well as their thoughts and emotions. Some were short and straight to the point, while others were almost short stories. I will pick one of the submissions and post it as Quote of the Day, together with a brief explanation to contextualize the narrative, on this site every day. I hope you will enjoy reading the quotes. You can scroll down to read previous quotes. The just-released ebook The (Un)Remarkable Sex Life of Gen Z Students contains close to 750 quotes.
December 9, 2023
“The only drugs I do are mushrooms and weed, also I would smoke more weed if I'm drunk but nobody should drink and eat shrooms.” (male, 20, sophomore)
Submitted in response to the questions: Do you use recreational drugs? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about your use of recreational drugs. Which ones do you use? When? How often? Are you more likely to use them when you drink alcohol and/or energy drinks? etc.
“The only drugs I do are mushrooms and weed, also I would smoke more weed if I'm drunk but nobody should drink and eat shrooms.” (male, 20, sophomore)
Submitted in response to the questions: Do you use recreational drugs? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about your use of recreational drugs. Which ones do you use? When? How often? Are you more likely to use them when you drink alcohol and/or energy drinks? etc.
December 8, 2023
“Relationships are fine and dandy and all that but sex ruins literally everything for me. I’ve ended several relationships over sex.” (religious female, 21, junior)
Submitted in response to the prompt: Tell us more about your current or last relationship. How long have you been together? Do you live together? How did you meet? etc.
“Relationships are fine and dandy and all that but sex ruins literally everything for me. I’ve ended several relationships over sex.” (religious female, 21, junior)
Submitted in response to the prompt: Tell us more about your current or last relationship. How long have you been together? Do you live together? How did you meet? etc.
December 7, 2023
“I felt that, as a male, I would be viewed as being dramatic or a liar if I had called what happened to me sexual assault.” (heterosexual male, 21, junior)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever been in a position where someone crossed the line and forced you into a sexual activity? Yes/No and Did you report the incident to police or anyone at [XXX]? and Can you tell us why you decided not to report the incident? Because you weren't sure whom to talk to? Or you didn't want anyone to know about it apart from maybe a friend? etc.
“I felt that, as a male, I would be viewed as being dramatic or a liar if I had called what happened to me sexual assault.” (heterosexual male, 21, junior)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever been in a position where someone crossed the line and forced you into a sexual activity? Yes/No and Did you report the incident to police or anyone at [XXX]? and Can you tell us why you decided not to report the incident? Because you weren't sure whom to talk to? Or you didn't want anyone to know about it apart from maybe a friend? etc.
December 6, 2023
“I think I have definitely pressured my current boyfriend into sex on some occasions. Not anymore but when we first started talking.” (pansexual female, 19, sophomore)
Submitted in response to the questions: Do you think you ever crossed the line and forced/coerced someone into sexual activity? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about the situation? How did it develop? Who was the person? What happened afterwards? etc.
“I think I have definitely pressured my current boyfriend into sex on some occasions. Not anymore but when we first started talking.” (pansexual female, 19, sophomore)
Submitted in response to the questions: Do you think you ever crossed the line and forced/coerced someone into sexual activity? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about the situation? How did it develop? Who was the person? What happened afterwards? etc.
December 5, 2023
“Ecstasy, LSD, shrooms. I’d say maybe 2-4 times a year for psychedelics. Ecstasy only once a year or twice but haven’t in about two years now. Only do ecstasy at music festivals.” (female, 21, senior)
Submitted in response to the questions: Do you use recreational drugs? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about your use of recreational drugs. Which ones do you use? When? How often? Are you more likely to use them when you drink alcohol and/or energy drinks? etc.
“Ecstasy, LSD, shrooms. I’d say maybe 2-4 times a year for psychedelics. Ecstasy only once a year or twice but haven’t in about two years now. Only do ecstasy at music festivals.” (female, 21, senior)
Submitted in response to the questions: Do you use recreational drugs? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about your use of recreational drugs. Which ones do you use? When? How often? Are you more likely to use them when you drink alcohol and/or energy drinks? etc.
December 4, 2023
“I wanted to report it and a part of me still wishes I did report it. I didn't report it because my parents didn't know I was no longer a virgin and I knew by reporting it as a minor my parents would have to get involved. Also I didn't know who to report these things to.” (heterosexual female, 19, sophomore)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever been in a position where someone crossed the line and forced you into a sexual activity? Yes/No and Did you report the incident to police or anyone at [XXX]? and Can you tell us why you decided not to report the incident? Because you weren't sure whom to talk to? Or you didn't want anyone to know about it apart from maybe a friend? etc.
“I wanted to report it and a part of me still wishes I did report it. I didn't report it because my parents didn't know I was no longer a virgin and I knew by reporting it as a minor my parents would have to get involved. Also I didn't know who to report these things to.” (heterosexual female, 19, sophomore)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever been in a position where someone crossed the line and forced you into a sexual activity? Yes/No and Did you report the incident to police or anyone at [XXX]? and Can you tell us why you decided not to report the incident? Because you weren't sure whom to talk to? Or you didn't want anyone to know about it apart from maybe a friend? etc.
December 3, 2023
“I was drinking when I lost my Virginity during a one night stand. I do not feel as though I was raped and I do not regret it.” (female, 22, senior)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever engaged in a sexual activity under the influence of alcohol? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about the situation? Do you think being under the influence of alcohol caused you to engage in sex at that time? etc.
“I was drinking when I lost my Virginity during a one night stand. I do not feel as though I was raped and I do not regret it.” (female, 22, senior)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever engaged in a sexual activity under the influence of alcohol? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about the situation? Do you think being under the influence of alcohol caused you to engage in sex at that time? etc.
December 2, 2023
“Long enough for my STD test to come back.” (male, 22, second degree student)
Submitted in response to the prompt: How long do you usually wait before you become sexually active with a new partner?
“Long enough for my STD test to come back.” (male, 22, second degree student)
Submitted in response to the prompt: How long do you usually wait before you become sexually active with a new partner?
December 1, 2023
“I have never had a boyfriend but really want one. Boys seem to want to have sex before a committed relationship.” (female, 19, sophomore)
Submitted in response to the prompt: Tell us more about your current or last relationship. How long have you been together? Do you live together? How did you meet? etc.
“I have never had a boyfriend but really want one. Boys seem to want to have sex before a committed relationship.” (female, 19, sophomore)
Submitted in response to the prompt: Tell us more about your current or last relationship. How long have you been together? Do you live together? How did you meet? etc.
November 30, 2023
“I dont have sex with drunk women but if im drunk then the rules slightly change.” (male, 24, senior)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever engaged in a sexual activity under the influence of alcohol? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about the situation? Do you think being under the influence of alcohol caused you to engage in sex at that time? etc.
“I dont have sex with drunk women but if im drunk then the rules slightly change.” (male, 24, senior)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever engaged in a sexual activity under the influence of alcohol? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about the situation? Do you think being under the influence of alcohol caused you to engage in sex at that time? etc.
November 29, 2023
“Condoms, vcf, mugwort tea.” (religious female, 18, freshman)
Submitted in response to the question: How do you prevent pregnancy?
“Condoms, vcf, mugwort tea.” (religious female, 18, freshman)
Submitted in response to the question: How do you prevent pregnancy?
November 28, 2023
“One of my classmates in high school asked if I wanted to drink with a bottle he got from a relative. I said, "Sure" Out of sexual curiosity and being tipsy and recently getting out of a long-term relationship, I figured I should “sexually liberate” myself and rebound with him. He wasn't intending to have sex, but I was in an extremely feminist phase of my life and thought it would be fulfilling to have casual sex.” (religious female, 19, freshman)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever engaged in a sexual activity under the influence of alcohol? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about the situation? Do you think being under the influence of alcohol caused you to engage in sex at that time? etc.
“One of my classmates in high school asked if I wanted to drink with a bottle he got from a relative. I said, "Sure" Out of sexual curiosity and being tipsy and recently getting out of a long-term relationship, I figured I should “sexually liberate” myself and rebound with him. He wasn't intending to have sex, but I was in an extremely feminist phase of my life and thought it would be fulfilling to have casual sex.” (religious female, 19, freshman)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever engaged in a sexual activity under the influence of alcohol? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about the situation? Do you think being under the influence of alcohol caused you to engage in sex at that time? etc.
November 27, 2023
“3 years, long-distance; very committed relationship. Partner is same-sex and both of us are on the asexual spectrum. Only been sexual if you count phone sex (I will for the same of the following answers). Met through a mutual friend when we were in high school.” (bisexual and grey-asexual female, 21 junior)
Submitted in response to the prompt: Tell us more about your current or last relationship. How long have you been together? Do you live together? How did you meet? etc.
“3 years, long-distance; very committed relationship. Partner is same-sex and both of us are on the asexual spectrum. Only been sexual if you count phone sex (I will for the same of the following answers). Met through a mutual friend when we were in high school.” (bisexual and grey-asexual female, 21 junior)
Submitted in response to the prompt: Tell us more about your current or last relationship. How long have you been together? Do you live together? How did you meet? etc.
November 26, 2023
“I have casual sex with a new partner once a month on average. Prior to September I was in a two year relationship, and we had sex once per week on average.” (male, 21, senior)
Submitted in response to the prompt: Tell us more about your current or last relationship. How long have you been together? Do you live together? How did you meet? etc.
“I have casual sex with a new partner once a month on average. Prior to September I was in a two year relationship, and we had sex once per week on average.” (male, 21, senior)
Submitted in response to the prompt: Tell us more about your current or last relationship. How long have you been together? Do you live together? How did you meet? etc.
November 25, 2023
“Condoms, birth control, pull out game strong, how about just don't do it _/(^-^)\_.”(female, 18, freshman)
Submitted in response to the question: How do you prevent pregnancy?
“Condoms, birth control, pull out game strong, how about just don't do it _/(^-^)\_.”(female, 18, freshman)
Submitted in response to the question: How do you prevent pregnancy?
November 24, 2023
“Chlamydia- unprotected sex w/ cheating partner (prior to XXX), HSV1- receiving oral sex from person HSV1 positive (after starting XXX).” (female, 22, junior)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever had a sexually transmitted disease? Yes/No and Which STD did you have? How did you get it? Where you already a student at FGCU? etc.
“Chlamydia- unprotected sex w/ cheating partner (prior to XXX), HSV1- receiving oral sex from person HSV1 positive (after starting XXX).” (female, 22, junior)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever had a sexually transmitted disease? Yes/No and Which STD did you have? How did you get it? Where you already a student at FGCU? etc.
November 23, 2023
“I'm having sex with a guy, we share romantic feelings but don't see each other enough to claim to be a relationship.” (female, 19, sophomore)
Submitted in response to the prompt: Tell us more about your current or last relationship. How long have you been together? Do you live together? How did you meet? etc.
“I'm having sex with a guy, we share romantic feelings but don't see each other enough to claim to be a relationship.” (female, 19, sophomore)
Submitted in response to the prompt: Tell us more about your current or last relationship. How long have you been together? Do you live together? How did you meet? etc.
November 22, 2023
“Alcohol turns me into the energizer bunny of sex. I just keep going...” (male, 24, senior)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever engaged in a sexual activity under the influence of alcohol? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about the situation? Do you think being under the influence of alcohol caused you to engage in sex at that time? etc.
“Alcohol turns me into the energizer bunny of sex. I just keep going...” (male, 24, senior)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever engaged in a sexual activity under the influence of alcohol? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about the situation? Do you think being under the influence of alcohol caused you to engage in sex at that time? etc.
November 21, 2023
“I'm currently dating a very handsome man, we've been together for about 2 months. We don't live together. We met in middle school. As for my last 2 relationships, they sucked ass.” (female, 22, graduate student)
Submitted in response to the prompt: Tell us more about your current or last relationship. How long have you been together? Do you live together? How did you meet? etc.
“I'm currently dating a very handsome man, we've been together for about 2 months. We don't live together. We met in middle school. As for my last 2 relationships, they sucked ass.” (female, 22, graduate student)
Submitted in response to the prompt: Tell us more about your current or last relationship. How long have you been together? Do you live together? How did you meet? etc.
November 20, 2023
“i have never been in a serious relationship, but i have had oral sex with one person one time and it was bad i don’t wanna do it again.” (female, 18, freshman)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever participated in (performed or received) oral sex? Yes/No and How often do you engage in oral sex per month?
“i have never been in a serious relationship, but i have had oral sex with one person one time and it was bad i don’t wanna do it again.” (female, 18, freshman)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever participated in (performed or received) oral sex? Yes/No and How often do you engage in oral sex per month?
November 19, 2023
“I was absolutely bombed and saw this straight 4 walking down the hallway and she looked like an 8. Sex wasn’t bad and it was fun.” (male, 19, sophomore)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever engaged in a sexual activity under the influence of alcohol? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about the situation? Do you think being under the influence of alcohol caused you to engage in sex at that time? etc.
“I was absolutely bombed and saw this straight 4 walking down the hallway and she looked like an 8. Sex wasn’t bad and it was fun.” (male, 19, sophomore)
Submitted in response to the questions: Have you ever engaged in a sexual activity under the influence of alcohol? Yes/No and Can you tell us more about the situation? Do you think being under the influence of alcohol caused you to engage in sex at that time? etc.
November 18, 2023
“I've never been in a formal, committed relationship. It's not for lack of trying - I've never really been romantically or sexually attracted to anyone, and after identifying as pansexual for years I'm starting to realize I may not even be attracted to men at all. The last person I got physical with (but didn't have sex with) was my classmate and friend who was involved in theatre with me.” (female/non-binary (genderqueer), 18, freshman)
Submitted in response to the prompt: Tell us more about your current or last relationship. How long have you been together? Do you live together? How did you meet? etc.
“I've never been in a formal, committed relationship. It's not for lack of trying - I've never really been romantically or sexually attracted to anyone, and after identifying as pansexual for years I'm starting to realize I may not even be attracted to men at all. The last person I got physical with (but didn't have sex with) was my classmate and friend who was involved in theatre with me.” (female/non-binary (genderqueer), 18, freshman)
Submitted in response to the prompt: Tell us more about your current or last relationship. How long have you been together? Do you live together? How did you meet? etc.
